Caring for Your Aging Parents

ISBN: 9781402218613

By: Bernard ShulmanRaeann Berman

Published: 05/05/2009

With a wealth of resources and reassuring answers, Caring for Your Aging Parents helps caregivers foster a loving, cooperative relationship with their parents in this new chapter of their life.

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The fastest-growing segment of our population is people 85 and older, and many of them are now cared for by their children. This comforting and poignant guide bridges the gap between elderly parents and the adult children who care for them, with trusted answers to questions most asked by caregivers in this challenging situation. Covering health, finances, living arrangements, communication, and emotional struggles, Caring for Your Aging Parents offers caring, professional advice for the increasingly difficult decisions that caregivers face, including: Making the right choice between home care and assisted living Coping with memory-loss and dementia Expressing care and concern without sending mixed messages Counteracting negative behavior Encouraging other family members to help with caregiving Managing stress and taking care of yourself With a wealth of resources and reassuring answers, Caring for Your Aging Parents helps caregivers foster a loving, cooperative relationship with their parents in this new chapter of their life. *** "It's a terrific book." Newsday "Useful, easy to read, and most informative." - Dr. Daniel Thursz, president, National Council of the Aging "Full of information..." Washington Post "One of the best books on eldercare." Ken Dychtwald, Age Wave ***

About the Author

Bernard H. Shulman MD

Bernard Shulman, MD is a clinical professor of psychiatry at Northwestern University School of Medicine and a faculty member of the Alfred Adler Institute with more than 50 years experience as a psychiatrist. Raeann Berman is a Knight Fellow at the University of Maryland College of Journalism.


Table of Contents


1. Living on the Far Side
Gaining perspective on the social, sexual, and occupational losses of the aged; understanding our emotional responses as adult children responsible for their care.

2. Missed Signals
Bridging the communication gap between the generations; discovering the hidden agenda of our parents.

3. Sending Straight Signals
How to express care, concern, and compassion without reinforcing negative behavior or sending unclear messages.

4. It's All in the Family
Exploring and controlling changing relationships within the family as parents age and roles change.

5. Who's the Boss?
The transfer of authority from parent to child: detecting the need, preparing emotionally, making a smooth transition, accepting responsibilities.

6. Breaking Out of Old, Destructive Patterns
How to counteract manipulative behavior and power plays by understanding our parents' motives and setting our own objectives.

7. How to Help Our Parents Compensate Constructively
Helping aging parents find positive ways of making up for their losses; a rundown of organized programs for seniors.

8. Taking Care of Yourself as well as Your Parent
Strategies for sharing the care of aging relatives; managing stress and guilt as caregiver.

9. When Your Parent Has to Move: How to Find the est Living Arrangements
How to find the best housing options for your parents, whether in your home with backup care or in independent or assisted living facilities.

10. How to Talk about Difficult Subjects
Discussing topics such as remarriage, finances, living arrangements, driver's licenses, illness, and death with the elderly.

11. Dealing with Confusion and Memory Loss
Causes of debility among the aged; symptoms to watch for; coping with malnutrition, medication, and medical care; ways to improve memory.

12. What Does the Future Hold for America's Seniors?
Changing societal attitudes and evolving social institutions for our expanding senior population.

Organizations, associations, and programs for seniors.
About the Authors


Excerpt from Chapter 1: Living on the Far Side

You're alone most of the time. When you do relate to people, it tends to be in terms of money. You're paying them to


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Format: Paperback

Length: 8.25 in
Width: 5.5 in
Weight: 10.32 oz
Page Count: 256 pages


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